Monday, November 16, 2009

A Reason, A Season or A Lifetime

Have you ever had someone in your life that you know is no good for you? Someone that knows you so well, that they can easily manipulate you, without even trying?

*sigh*

I have someone like that in my life. This person has been a great friend in the past. Or have they? Do I just see what I want to see?

Do I love this person for who they are? Or do I love the idea of who they are?

I couldn't find the author's name, but I read this once and it has stuck with me since:

"People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant."

Perhaps this person isn't a "lifetime" friend. Perhaps they were just "a season" friend. I don't know that this is a bad thing. Maybe what we needed from each other has been fulfilled and we are ready to move on.

But if that's the case...why can't I even type that without crying? Maybe I'm expecting too much.

From both of us.

2 comments:

Andrea said...

i am HUGGING you really tight!! in my latest experience, my friend was there for a reason...and now is gone. just posted about it last week.

i'm so sorry you are hurting...

bequi said...

I'm kind of in this situation now. Trying to decide if a friend's bad attitude and snotty sense of humor is worth the fun times we have.