I just finished watching this show on HBO Family called "Middle School Confessions". It was like a reality version of the movie "Thirteen".
Both of these shows are such a reality check, as a parent. It wasn't too long ago that I was in middle school. I origionally thought to myself, "It wasn't like that, when I was that age." But, in reflecting on it...I am wrong. My best friend, at the time, lost her virginity in 6th grade. I knew people that drank. I guess that it just never crossed MY mind to do these things.
On "Middle School Confessions", girls were discussing many facets of sex, as though they were as harmless as hand holding. I was shocked at how easily a 12 year old described her first sexual encounter. At how candidly a 13 year old discussed oral sex and the "sex scene". She says, "I think I feel more comfortable with somebody that I wouldn't know because if I didn't wrong, it's okay! Because I'm not going to see them again."
It showed scenes of parties where girls were rubbing up against boys. Scenes where girls were dirty dancing with other girls, while the boys watched. Where are the parents during these parties? Seriously, why are these parties allowed? It frustrates me, as a parent, that all parents don't want the same morals for their children, that I want. It saddens me, that I can be as responsible as I should be, I can make sure an adult is present when my child goes somewhere, but if that adult doesn't find these actions wrong...I haven't protected my children from anything.
My oldest is in 1st grade, so one would think that I have a while before I need to be worrying about these things. But, when you live in a community with an extremely high teenage pregnancy rate and a community where a 5th grader became pregnant last year...I need to worry. Sex has never come up (other than a slight mention of the Spears pregnancy) and I honestly don't know when the appropriate time for that is. She knows how babies are born (because I have watched a lot of "A Baby Story") and I have honestly answered any questions about birth.
So, I question you...how have you approached seemingly "adult" subject matter with your children?